Child loss will test you.
Your faith.
Your decisions.
The questions of, what if…?!
Child loss will alienate you from others, even if it’s unintentional.
Well meaning wishes may feel hurtful or feel premature.
This loss can run deep, be dark, and in moments of silence be the loudest thing you’ve ever heard in your life. Unable to escape as the deafening sound slaps you into the reality that the person you couldn’t imagine your life without, is gone.
Child loss leaves a part of your heart shattered into an infinite amount of pieces. They may mend back together one day however the scars of the past will still remain.
Well meaning words continue. Why are you grieving after so long? It’s time to move forward… It seems like you’re unable to enjoy life. Or be told that you make others uncomfortable because you’re still grieving.
Guess what? There is no time limit on grief. These are all in the range of normal emotions and you are allowed to feel them and express them.
Grief is a part of your heart that lives for that person who is no longer living, having a lifetime of love to give and that emptiness because they are not here to receive that love.
Grief when it’s your child who is gone remains because of all the moments that will never be. A love that continues on for the rest of your life. Empty arms missing them and remembering what brief time you had.
Child loss is the worst loss I’ve ever encountered. This loss with our daughter Noelle has been the most challenging I’ve ever had physically, spiritually, emotionally… My soul aches.
Nine months in womb, ten hours living on earth with us, held in our arms, an even more brief moment as a family of four. Noelle knew love from her family her entire life.
Child loss feels isolating. What words can truly be said? What are some things that helped you during this time of healing? What do you wish others had said to you?
Remembering I’m not alone while I walk this path of infertility and child loss. Thankful for those who have supported us.
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